If I could go back to the beginning, I’d tell myself..
There’s a game I like to play, I call it the “Time Machine” game. In this game, I mentally time travel back to the beginning of life-changing journey and give myself a little pep talk.
As my present self, I tell my past self, who’s full of excitement and hope, everything they need to know about the road ahead. All the pitfalls, caverns, twists and turns, valleys and mountains to climb.
To kick off my first diary entry, I’ll go back and tell “Baby Poler Jane” about the road ahead:
Each training session may feel different from the next. You’ll feel strong in one session, and on the struggle bus in another.
Measuring your ability and progress against another poler, will lead you to imposter syndrome and comparison-itis.
Work with your body instead of forcing your body into moves (I’m talking about you Allegra! My ribs have never been the same!)
Cheer (not sneer) on your fellow pole enthusiast when they acheive a move/place at a comp/chosen to perform. If you want to be cheered, you need to also applaud someone’s hard work.
“I don’t feel like training today” will be a thought you’ll have A LOT!
Someone will always be more flexible/stronger/capable at harder moves than you. Focus on what you can do!
Moving naturally with freestyling comes from practicing sequences and combinations.
Be careful of ego, pride and competition - they may force you to rush your progress in attempt to “keep up”.
Go to different studios and learn from as many pole instructors as you can. Vary your training to stay inspired and engaged.
If you’re going to compete, focus your training on making it to the stage instead of being the best!
Practice pointed toes and extending legs as much as possible.
Beginner level of pole has wonderful moves, combinations and sequences - don’t rush out of this level!
Being rejected on a pole competition/showcase application isn’t personal - the organizers receive hundreds of applications, curating an event can be difficult. Their decision is not a reflection on your abilities.
Taking a break from pole, doesn’t mean you’re quitting pole. It means you’re resting your body and spirit and regrouping your energy.
Your training doesn’t have to be “all or nothing”. Pace yourself by taking mini-breaks to rest, recharge and become reinspired.
There’s room for all to shine!
Above all else, keep having fun! Once you take pole too seriously, pressuring yourself to “be the best”, you take the joy out of the journey. Your self esteem takes a dive, protect your confidence by focussing on the process of learning pole.
Onwards and upwards!